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Sunday, April 10, 2011
Dream Center LA - HUMAN TRAFFICKING CONFERENCE...
DEFINITION
Human Trafficking is modern-day slavery, in which victims are subjected to force, fraud, or coercion for the purpose of forced labor or sexual exploitation. It is the fastest growing criminal industry worldwide.FORCE – rape, beatings, and confinement to control victims
FRAUD – false offers to victims, false offers of employment, marriage, better life
COERCION – Threats, debt-bondage, psychological abuse
TYPES OF TRAFFICKING
Forced Labor or involuntary servitude is the leading form of trafficking in the world.Bonded Labor or Debt Bondage utilizes a bond or debt to keep a person under subjugation- Migrant Laborers are especially vulnerable to bonded labor or debt bondage.
Involuntary Domestic Servitude – the informal workplace is conducive to exploitation.
Forced Child Labor includes any child subject to involuntary servitude, debt bondage or slavery Sex Trafficking comprises a significant portion of trafficking and can occur alongside debt bondage, this includes, but not limited to, prostitution, brothels, porn films, escort services, etc.
Child Sex Trafficking includes commercial sexual exploitation of children and child sex tourism.
SHELTERS/PROGRAMS IN THE USA
- Very few shelters specifically for Human Trafficking Victims.
- Most adult victims will go into domestic violence shelters.
- Most minors go into foster care system or juvenile halls.
- There are NO shelters for male victims of human trafficking in this country.
IDENTIFYING A VICTIM
Some Indicators of a potential trafficking victim includes:1. Evidence of being controlled or the inability to move or leave a job or home
2. Bruises or other signs of physical abuse
3. Fear or depression
4. Not speaking on own behalf and/or non-English speaking
5. No passport or other forms of Identification or documentation
Dream Center LA - HUMAN TRAFFICKING CONFERENCE-FALL 2011- GET INVOLVED!
DEFINITION
Human Trafficking is modern-day slavery, in which victims are subjected to force, fraud, or coercion for the purpose of forced labor or sexual exploitation. It is the fastest growing criminal industry worldwide.FORCE – rape, beatings, and confinement to control victims
FRAUD – false offers to victims, false offers of employment, marriage, better life
COERCION – Threats, debt-bondage, psychological abuse
TYPES OF TRAFFICKING
Forced Labor or involuntary servitude is the leading form of trafficking in the world.Bonded Labor or Debt Bondage utilizes a bond or debt to keep a person under subjugation- Migrant Laborers are especially vulnerable to bonded labor or debt bondage.
Involuntary Domestic Servitude – the informal workplace is conducive to exploitation.
Forced Child Labor includes any child subject to involuntary servitude, debt bondage or slavery Sex Trafficking comprises a significant portion of trafficking and can occur alongside debt bondage, this includes, but not limited to, prostitution, brothels, porn films, escort services, etc.
Child Sex Trafficking includes commercial sexual exploitation of children and child sex tourism.
SHELTERS/PROGRAMS IN THE USA
- Very few shelters specifically for Human Trafficking Victims.
- Most adult victims will go into domestic violence shelters.
- Most minors go into foster care system or juvenile halls.
- There are NO shelters for male victims of human trafficking in this country.
IDENTIFYING A VICTIM
Some Indicators of a potential trafficking victim includes:1. Evidence of being controlled or the inability to move or leave a job or home
2. Bruises or other signs of physical abuse
3. Fear or depression
4. Not speaking on own behalf and/or non-English speaking
5. No passport or other forms of Identification or documentation
Saturday, April 9, 2011
the difference between Support Group vs. Individual Therapy
Support Group vs. Individual Therapy
Just a few of the benefits for each
Receive peer feed back and support ( for a variety of input )
Receive professional feedback and support
Fee is generally less than individual sessions
Truly see that your struggles are shared by others, learn from their experiences, share some of your own success.Individual Therapy Benefits:Provides you support
The entire session is focused on you
Appointments arranged around YOUR own schedule
Excellent for crisis management
Beneficial as an addition to group, as needed
DEPRESSION
People who struggle with depression often feel down for extended periods. They lose interest in activities that they once found pleasurable. Depression negatively affects millions of Americans each year.ANXIETY AND STRESS
Stress and anxiety are related, but often confused. Stress is tension associated with a specific event (e.g. a test or a job), while anxiety is a non-specific worry about the future. To find relief, people with anxiety may turn to repetitive routines, preoccupations, or addictions.ARGUMENTS
Conflict resolution is an important part of any relationship. Conflict plays a vital role in allowing two people to reconcile differing needs. Unfortunately, when conflict is handled poorly, it can cause distress in the relationship.TRAUMA
Experiences that overwhelm or scare us can leave a lasting impression. The symptoms can leave us stressed, depressed, and have negative consequences for our work and home life.COMMUNICATION
Feeling understood and understanding ones partner is what allows couples to deeply share one another?s lives. Often, couples struggle with communication issues, which actually mask deeper relationship issues.TRUST
Trust plays a vital role in sustaining a relationship. People trust differently. For some, trust is established quickly, while others are slow to grant trust. Similarly, some are able to forgive quickly, while others find it hard.SELF-ESTEEM
Self-esteem is a feeling of personal worth. It is important to be able to value yourself regardless of your current state of personal achievement, beauty, or intelligence. Your self-esteem creates the foundation for a full life, great relationships, and a feeling of well-being.(This is just a sampling of issues that therapy can help with.)INDIVIDUALS
- Self-development
- Domestic Abuse issues
- Anxiety and depression
- Stress Management
- Life Transitions
- Anger Management
- Teen Life Issues
- Substance abuse and dependence
- Loss and grief counseling
- Parent-child conflicts
- Family communication problems
- Defiant, angry, or isolated teens
- Grief and issues of loss
- Life Transitions (after divorce or separation)
- Therapeutic support groups tend to be a truly enriching experience with additional input and feedback from group members
- Men's group
- Communication
- Financial disagreements
- Infidelity
- Trust issues
- Premarital, Pre-commitment counseling
Support Group vs. Individual Therapy
Support Group vs. Individual Therapy
Just a few of the benefits for each
Receive peer feed back and support ( for a variety of input )
Receive professional feedback and support
Fee is generally less than individual sessions
Truly see that your struggles are shared by others, learn from their experiences, share some of your own success.Individual Therapy Benefits:Provides you support
The entire session is focused on you
Appointments arranged around YOUR own schedule
Excellent for crisis management
Beneficial as an addition to group, as needed
Las Vegas: “Hub” of Human Trafficking
Last Updated on Saturday, 09 April 2011 11:57Written by Perly ViasmenskyWednesday, 30 March 2011 00:00
By Perly Viasmensky
Many are under the false impression that human traffickers shuttle women in and out of Asia to work in massage parlors, many of which are fronts for prostitution. Not all of those women, however, come from Asia; many are coming from our neighboring country of Canada, lured into their situation by recruiters offering false promises of a career as a model or a dancer.
Numerous girls are arrested in our city daily for solicitation and then thrown in the Clark County Detention Center until they can appear before a judge or get bailed out by their pimps. The traffickers remain unknown and untouched when, in reality, they are the ones who should be targeted by law enforcement.
Very seldom do we see human traffickers prosecuted in Las Vegas. Often, those criminals are unknown to police officers because the arrested alleged prostitute is afraid of the beating she will receive if she discloses the name of her pimp or the recruiter who brought her to Las Vegas under false pretenses. Other times, the naive girls still believe that their pimps are in love with them and refuse to compromise them in any way.
The girls are lured by pimps and other girls' recruiters into prostitution at hotels on and off the Las Vegas Strip, and they are bound to their unwanted and forced-upon-them lifestyle by threats and intimidation.
Although we cannot know the actual number, many girls have disappeared from Las Vegas over the years - sometime between night and morning - without a trace. Caught up in that unwanted life, those girls would rather prostitute themselves every night than receive a brutal beating they know they will get if they disobey their pimps and fail to bring in the amount of money expected. The pimps depend on controlling those young women through fear and coercion. And that control makes it easy for the trafficking to continue.
The problem in Nevada is not with the legal rural brothels where those ladies have chosen their way of life; many of them support their household and children with the profits from their profession. They have not been and are not being subjected to brutal beatings by owners of those brothels and they do not work there out of fear. Our problem is with human trafficking and the number of girls that are lured to Las Vegas by corrupt men and women.
The girls recruited by those morally-bankrupt individuals are not working in the world's oldest profession by choice; they are victims of criminals reaping often huge profits at the expense of those young, innocent girls, and that is the reason we want to expose some of those people by publishing their pictures and letting the citizens of Las Vegas be aware of who they are.
Jessica
Richard Barrington Walcott
Yvonne
Before Vice officers arrest a supposed prostitute, they ought to follow her to where the pimp will be waiting to receive his profits from his “ATM machine,” who just happens to be the girl he sent to prostitute herself for his personal benefit.
It is time for Metro officers and Immigration authorities to start investigating all those men coming from Canada with young girls on tour; and more than ever, it's time for the American Embassy in Canada to check on all those coming across.
Donald Vaz.
Take a look at the pictures of those we mentioned in this article. Based on the information we have, all of them should be deported from the United States immediately. And if any one of them is an American citizen, he or she should be jailed for life for the crime of human trafficking.
Las Vegas: “Hub” of Human Trafficking
Last Updated on Saturday, 09 April 2011 11:57
By Perly Viasmensky
Many are under the false impression that human traffickers shuttle women in and out of Asia to work in massage parlors, many of which are fronts for prostitution. Not all of those women, however, come from Asia; many are coming from our neighboring country of Canada, lured into their situation by recruiters offering false promises of a career as a model or a dancer.
Numerous girls are arrested in our city daily for solicitation and then thrown in the Clark County Detention Center until they can appear before a judge or get bailed out by their pimps. The traffickers remain unknown and untouched when, in reality, they are the ones who should be targeted by law enforcement.
Very seldom do we see human traffickers prosecuted in Las Vegas. Often, those criminals are unknown to police officers because the arrested alleged prostitute is afraid of the beating she will receive if she discloses the name of her pimp or the recruiter who brought her to Las Vegas under false pretenses. Other times, the naive girls still believe that their pimps are in love with them and refuse to compromise them in any way.
The girls are lured by pimps and other girls' recruiters into prostitution at hotels on and off the Las Vegas Strip, and they are bound to their unwanted and forced-upon-them lifestyle by threats and intimidation.
Although we cannot know the actual number, many girls have disappeared from Las Vegas over the years - sometime between night and morning - without a trace. Caught up in that unwanted life, those girls would rather prostitute themselves every night than receive a brutal beating they know they will get if they disobey their pimps and fail to bring in the amount of money expected. The pimps depend on controlling those young women through fear and coercion. And that control makes it easy for the trafficking to continue.
The problem in Nevada is not with the legal rural brothels where those ladies have chosen their way of life; many of them support their household and children with the profits from their profession. They have not been and are not being subjected to brutal beatings by owners of those brothels and they do not work there out of fear. Our problem is with human trafficking and the number of girls that are lured to Las Vegas by corrupt men and women.
The girls recruited by those morally-bankrupt individuals are not working in the world's oldest profession by choice; they are victims of criminals reaping often huge profits at the expense of those young, innocent girls, and that is the reason we want to expose some of those people by publishing their pictures and letting the citizens of Las Vegas be aware of who they are.
Jessica
Richard Barrington Walcott
Yvonne
Before Vice officers arrest a supposed prostitute, they ought to follow her to where the pimp will be waiting to receive his profits from his “ATM machine,” who just happens to be the girl he sent to prostitute herself for his personal benefit.
It is time for Metro officers and Immigration authorities to start investigating all those men coming from Canada with young girls on tour; and more than ever, it's time for the American Embassy in Canada to check on all those coming across.
Donald Vaz.
Take a look at the pictures of those we mentioned in this article. Based on the information we have, all of them should be deported from the United States immediately. And if any one of them is an American citizen, he or she should be jailed for life for the crime of human trafficking.
How to Build Self-Esteem After a Verbally Abusive Relationship
How to Build Self-Esteem After a Verbally Abusive Relationship
Overview
Moving on after a verbally abusive relationship is challenging because your abuser has convinced you that your character is somehow deficient. Verbal abuse can leave you with enduring psychological wounds; scars that can influence every part of your life and damage your self-esteem. Best-selling author, Patricia Evans, founded the Evans Interpersonal Communications Institute in order to emphasize the devastating consequences of verbal abuse. She says, “Verbal abuses creates emotional pain and mental anguish. It is a lie told to you or about you. Generally, verbal abuse defines people telling them what they are, what they think, their motives, and so forth.”
Step 1
Confront the pain. Allow yourself to express any negative emotions you have towards your abuser. Face your anger and sadness. Recognize that the abuse wasn’t a result of your deficiencies, but a result of your abuser’s defects. Don’t attempt to hide your emotions. Repressing the anger can force you to simply accept the abuse as a reality, rather than allowing yourself to face the devastating consequences of the manipulation, says psychoanalyst Jane Bolton. She says that by suppressing the resentment, you’re allowing your abuser to hold emotional control over you. As a result, the “...internal pressure builds up until the self-suppressing can no longer hold and emotional eruption follow.” Subsequently, she says, you feel “...remorse, shame, and self-esteem plummets.”
Step 2
Direct your feelings towards a constructive outlet. Find an active means by which you can express your frustrations. Engage in activities that allow you to focus on your well-being and your self-improvement. Challenge yourself by participating in new hobbies. Sign up for a half-marathon and join a marathon-training group, take martial arts classes, participate in a cooking challenge or register for an intellectually demanding class at a local college. Your abuser has controlled you through domination and submission techniques, says social scientist and educator, Michael J. Formica. Give yourself an opportunity to recognize your strengths and prove that you can achieve success, even when you’re presented with a difficult task.
Step 3
Give and receive support. Find a support group for victims of abuse. Not only can you receive help for coping with your suffering, but you can also assist others in their journey through the pain. Empathizing with others can produce a healing effect in victims, says Bolton. She says that the ability to recognize a need for understanding and compassion in regard to others can “...heal and support blossoming of the self and relationships.” Be open and honest within the group by sharing your experiences and receiving feedback from other victims who have shared some of the same hardships—you’re not alone. Bolton says that when you see someone who’s attempting to understand how you feel, it can give you a “...burst of hope, optimism and energy. That renewed energy brings us closer to being able to act upon what we need...” and permits you to take care of your physical and emotional needs.
Step 4
Replace negative self-talk. Replace the negative thoughts or words in your head with positive self-affirmations. Remind yourself that you were strong enough to leave the abuse and move on with your life. Make a list of what has changed since you left the relationship and compare it to your life when you were absorbed in the abuse. Focus on your needs and do whatever it is that allows you to feel a sense of joy and accomplishment. Psychologist Daniel Tomasulo says that you should take time each day to identify and ponder the positive aspects in your life. He says that if you focus on moments of happiness or inspiration, you can transfer your “...mindset toward finding and savoring the good things in our life which, in turn, allows for a genuine resilience in our spirit, mind, and body.”