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Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Info from Hope for Healing. Org for those church members and clergy


Hope for Healing. Org 
Domestic Violence Resource Sheet How the church can help:


Talk about it!
␣ Preach it! Domestic violence is never ok. ␣ Pray for victims and abusers during your worship prayer time. ␣ Display the Hope Quilt or educational materials in a high traffic area in your church. ␣ Regularly publish the local hotline phone number in the church bulletin. ␣ Ask an advocate from your local center or from Hope for Healing.Org to come speak
at worship or to a group meeting. ␣ Put Hope for Healing.Org in your church budget. ␣ Collect items (such as used cell phones) on an ongoing basis. ␣ Get involved! Encourage your church group to volunteer with Hope for Healing.Org
or your local domestic violence program. ␣ Get training for yourself or your church. Host an Oasis training program by Hope for
Healing.Org for your district or for your church.

Create an atmosphere of safety.␣ 
 Never counsel an abuser and a victim together. 
 *Be open and willing to talk. ␣ Check your church’s Safe Sanctuary policy. Be sure everyone would know what to
do and where to go in the unlikely event of an emergency. ␣
 *Make sure a land line telephone is within easy reach of the sanctuary and not just locked away in the pastor’s office.
*Put the church address on all church telephones. ␣ Put up posters and resource displays. ␣ Place safety cards in the bathroom. ␣ Host a self-defense class.
␣ Domestic violence does not have to be reported. Encourage the victim but do not force the victim to make a report.
␣ Do not try to assign blame or take sides. ␣ Avoid putting the pastor in the middle. ␣ Know your local resources and make appropriate referrals. ␣ Borrow books or videos from the Hope for Healing.Org lending library.
• Acknowledge that domestic violence is a problem that isn’t going to “just go away”. • Pray with the victim and offer appropriate, helpful, scriptures. • Be supportive and nonjudgemental. • Provide Christian friendship.
• Allow the victim to express pain and concerns. • Help the victim create a safety plan. • Encourage and help the victim to seek out local resources.


Local resources:
For more information please contact:
Hope for Healing.Org 153 E Broadway Blvd. #113 Jefferson City, TN 37760 Phone: 865.933.8769

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Daddy's Little Girl


Wow, what a tough video and song
About daddy's who left


Friday, October 1, 2010

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS DEFINED AS ANY ABUSE, WHETHER IT BE PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL, VERBAL, ECONOMIC, OR SEXUAL

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS DEFINED AS ANY ABUSE, WHETHER IT BE PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL, VERBAL, ECONOMIC, OR SEXUAL THAT IS COMMITTED AGAINST ANOTHER PERSON WHO IS – OR WAS – IN AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP (MARRIAGE, DATING, LIVING TOGETHER).

If the relationship ends, but the abuse continues, it is still considered domestic violence. Domestic violence knows no boundaries. People who are involved in abusive relationships come from all walks of life and socio-economic backgrounds.

 

PHYSICAL ABUSE- Physical abuse is perhaps the most visible form of domestic violence, but is usually preceded by various forms of emotional and verbal abuse.  Physical abuse may include shoving, slapping, kicking, pinching, biting, punching, tripping, choking, spitting, and restraining (not letting the victim leave if they want to). The abuse may result in bruises, lacerations or even broken bones. At its extreme, physical abuse may even result in death. As the relationship progresses, so too does the level of violence. Thus, in the early stages of the relationship, the abuser may push or slap their partner, but eventually may actually beat their partner severely.

EMOTIONAL ABUSE- Since emotional and verbal abuse leave no visible wounds, some people may believe that it is not as damaging or harmful as physical abuse—this is not so. This form of abuse is the most pervasive and has the longest reaching effects, possibly leaving the victim emotionally scarred for life, and more vulnerable to other forms of abuse. After experiencing emotional and verbal abuse over time, victims may begin to believe that these negative concepts are true, or they may start to feel as if they deserve such treatment. Forms of emotional and verbal abuse may include name-calling, put-downs, criticizing, shouting, embarrassing, keeping the victim from spending time with family or friends, or even threatening and intimidating the victim. Regardless of the method employed, it is intended to humiliate and degrade another person, leaving them to feel demoralized and inferior to the abuser. “Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but words can hurt forever.”

ECONOMIC ABUSE- Financial or economic abuse can be a variety of things including not paying child support, keeping someone from getting or keeping a job, maxing out credit cards, stealing, and using money for drugs and alcohol instead of necessities. Financial abuse is used to a control a person in the relationship often times making the victim economically dependent on the partner controlling all the money. When the victim becomes dependant it often makes it much harder for the victim to leave the relationship because they feel they cannot afford to leave. For example some questions that come up are, “Who will pay for food, rent, bills, gas for the car, kids’ necessities?”

SEXUAL ABUSESexual abuse may include making someone perform sexual acts against their will, treating another as if they were only a sex object, withholding sex to express anger, demanding sex after a violent incident, or harassing another for objecting to certain sexual acts. Even if a couple is married, or have been dating a long time, or if they had consented to sex in the past, consent must be obtained each time or it is sexual assault. Since sex may be a topic that is difficult to discuss with others, the victim who has experienced this type of abuse may find himself or herself feeling extremely isolated and alone, unable to talk about their feelings.

 

POWER & CONTROL                                                                                                             The abuse is used to achieve and maintain power, control, and dominance over the other person. Some people mistakenly believe that someone who abuses their partner is someone who can’t control their temper; this is absolutely not true. Abusers can control their behavior, and usually do around others. Very often it is only their partner that sees their abusive behavior.

What is SEXUAL ASSAULT

IN THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA, SEXUAL ASSAULT IS CONSIDERED: ANY SEXUAL CONTACT WITHOUT CONSENT. THIS MAY INCLUDE RAPE, ATTEMPTED RAPE, FORCED ORAL COPULATION, FORCED SODOMY, UNLAWFUL SEXUAL INTERCOURSE, UNWANTED TOUCHING, AND INCEST.

THE LOCAL DEFINITIONS OF THESE CRIMES VARY BUT THE EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL TRAUMA REMAINS THE SAME.

Sexual assault is one of the most devastating violent crimes. It deprives us of our most basic human right: the sanctity and safety of our own bodies. Despite common misconceptions, rape is not an erotic act of sexual desire. It is a crime of violence with the intent to control and humiliate, and it is the feeling of humiliation and loss of control that accounts for much of the victim’s suffering.

 

Sexual assault happens to individuals regardless of sex, age, or relationship between the victim and offender. It is committed against children and adults, males and females, gays, lesbians, transgender persons, strangers, acquaintances, and family members including partners. Approximately 80% of the time, a victim is sexual assault knows the perpetrator. The perpetrators of sexual assault may be from any class, culture, profession, or educational level.

 

There are four main categories according to the law where consent or permission cannot be give by a victim:

1.      Force or threat of force: When the perpetrator uses his/her strength, a weapon, or threats of harm to the victim (including threatening harm to people the victim knows). Even if a victim agrees to sexual contact in this situation, they have not given consent.

2.      Coercion or trickery: When the victim is tricked or deceived. Although challenging to imagine, this does occur. Often times, this happens with children who are tricked and/or talked into sexual acts by the perpetrator. With adults, an example could be a perpetrator who disguises themselves as someone the victim knows in order to have sexual contact.

3.      Incapacitation: A person is incapacitated if they are intoxicated, under influence of drugs and/or alcohol, or if they are unconscious.

4.      Incapable: In the State of California, people are incapable of giving consent if they are a minor (under 18 years of age). If you have sexual intercourse with anyone under the age of 18 (unless you are married to them), you are breaking the law. In some cases, people are also incapable of giving consent if they have a mental disorder or disability that requires them to have a conservatorship.

 

Other Types of Sexual Abuse

Indecent Exposure: The law defines indecent exposure as the exposure of private parts thereof, in any public place or in any place where there are present other persons to be offended or thereby annoyed. (Sec. 314) The first offense conviction of indecent exposure is a misdemeanor in California, but the second offense constitutes a felony.

Sexual Harassment: The legal definition of sexual harassment states that any unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature in the workplace constitutes as sexual harassment when submission is a condition or term of employment or when this behavior creates a hostile work environment.

Obscene Calls: The CA Penal Code (sec. 653m) refers to obscene calls as telephone calls with intent to annoy, and states that any person who, with the intent to annoy, telephones another and addresses to such a person any obscene language or threat to inflict injury, is guilty of a misdemeanor.

 

It is important to remember that the impact of sexual assault affects the victims as well as their loved ones and community. The families of survivors must also learn to deal with their feelings of grief and pain. Child survivors of sexual abuse often develop behavioral and emotional problems that seriously impact their social and private lives.

BAPTIST BISHOP FACES SEX ALLEGATIONS

He's one of the most powerful religious leaders in America, and he once shared the stage with four U.S. presidents when he presided over the 2006 funeral for Coretta Scott King.

Now, Bishop Eddie Long is the target of explosive allegations by two young men who claim he used his "spiritual authority" to coerce them into "engaging in sexual acts."

What makes the charges so particularly shocking is that Bishop Long is known for his public crusades against homosexuality, and led a march against gay marriage in 2004.

INSIDE EDITION spoke with evangelical pastor Ted Haggard, who admitted to once having sexual contact with a male prostitute.  

"I think he's heartbroken, I think he's confused, and I think he's discouraged, whether he's guilty or innocent," said Haggard.

Haggard's wife Gayle authored the book, Why I Stayed.

"Eddie Long is a great man. He has served many people and done wonderful things," said Mrs. Haggard.

Bishop Long is the charismatic pastor of the New Birth Missionary Baptist Church, a mega-church near Atlanta with 25-thousand members.

The men making the charges against Long say they were teenagers when he took them on overnight trips where they claim he sexually abused them.

Art Franklin, a spokesman for Bishop Long, categorically denied the allegations, saying, "This is actually a case of retaliation and a shakedown for money by men with some serious credibility issues who are trying to mount their own defense."

CONTROVERSIAL SEX OFFENDER HOSPITAL COSTS TAXPAYERS

http://www.insideedition.com/news/5082/controversial-sex-offender-hospital-co...

 

A spacious sparkling new mall, a lovely jogging path and state of the art medical care. No, it's not the latest five star retirement community. It's actually a controversial home for sexual predators.

Dr. Maria Piccillo said, "We are now coming up on what we call the main mall."

INSIDE EDITION's Lisa Guerrero got an exclusive look inside central California's Coalinga State Hospital, where sex offenders who have already done their time in prison are sent because they are deemed likely to attack again are sent. Most are never allowed to leave.

Guerrero asked, "What is this?"

"Casino night," said Dr. Piccillo.

"They have different activities in the evening hours," said Piccillo.

"Coalinga Idol. It's like American Idol singing," said Guerrero.

Dr. Maria Piccillo oversees treatment at the facility where residents also enjoy movie night and theme parties.

A BBC documentary film crew captured a Halloween celebration that included singing the theme song to The Addams Family TV show.

And there is a beautiful garden that is also the work of sexual predators.

Guerrero asked, "This is part of a gardening therapy?" 

"Gardening therapy, yeah. It's that use of time to really develop pro-social and healthy ways of spending time," said Dr. Piccillo.

Rodney Short served 17 years in prison for rape, then was sent directly to Coalinga, where it costs about $175,000 a year to house one person.

Short said, "I get to play tennis, run around the track, and lift weights."

TODDLER TAPED TO A WALL BY HIS OWN MOM

http://www.insideedition.com/news/5107/toddler-taped-to-a-wall-by-his-own-mom...

They're the photos that will break the heart of any loving parent. A two-year-old boy actually duct-taped to a wall.

Believe it or not, cops say his own mother held him there while her boyfriend duct-taped him to the wall.

We've blurred the photos to protect the toddler's identity. If you could see his face, you'd see a bewildered little boy wailing over his plight.

The prosecutor in the case said, "He was terrified. You can see that from looking at the pictures."

In another sequence of photos, the little boy also has his hands duct-taped. His mother has a big grin in the photos with her son and the boyfriend. They think it's a big joke.

Another photos shows where they've taped the little boy's sippy cup to the wall out of his reach, triggering more tears.

Cops say the photos were taken when the mom and boyfriend were high after a night of partying at their home near Lincoln, Nebraska.

Police chief Bruce Lang said, "They did it because they thought it was funny."

The photos came to light when the mom showed them to a friend, who then called the cops.

INSIDE EDITION wanted to ask the mother how this could possibly happen? She wasn't keen to talk, saying, "I want you to leave."

The boyfriend, 19-year-old Corde Honea was sentenced to three years for child abuse. And 18-year-old Jayla Hamm was sentenced to five weekends in jail and probation. Her son is allowed to stay with her under state supervision.

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go to site to see photos

They're the photos that will break the heart of any loving parent. A two-year-old boy actually duct-taped to a wall.

Believe it or not, cops say his own mother held him there while her boyfriend duct-taped him to the wall.

We've blurred the photos to protect the toddler's identity. If you could see his face, you'd see a bewildered little boy wailing over his plight.

The prosecutor in the case said, "He was terrified. You can see that from looking at the pictures."

In another sequence of photos, the little boy also has his hands duct-taped. His mother has a big grin in the photos with her son and the boyfriend. They think it's a big joke.

Another photos shows where they've taped the little boy's sippy cup to the wall out of his reach, triggering more tears.

Cops say the photos were taken when the mom and boyfriend were high after a night of partying at their home near Lincoln, Nebraska.

Police chief Bruce Lang said, "They did it because they thought it was funny."

The photos came to light when the mom showed them to a friend, who then called the cops.

INSIDE EDITION wanted to ask the mother how this could possibly happen? She wasn't keen to talk, saying, "I want you to leave."

The boyfriend, 19-year-old Corde Honea was sentenced to three years for child abuse. And 18-year-old Jayla Hamm was sentenced to five weekends in jail and probation. Her son is allowed to stay with her under state supervision.

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Certification Programs in Traumatic Stress and Crisis Management Specialties


Certification Programs in Traumatic Stress and
Crisis Management Specialties

The American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress® in collaboration with the National Center for Crisis Management® offer members the opportunity to achieve certification in traumatic stress and crisis management specialty areas. There are 17 specialty certifications which fall into one of two programs:Certifications in Traumatic Stress Specialties or Certifications in Crisis Management Specialties. The specialty certifications are listed below under their respective program headings.
All certifications and credentials obtained by members are recognized by both the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress and the National Center for Crisis Management. The certificate awarded to successful candidates indicates this dual recognition. Furthermore, all awarded certifications are included in the member’s profile in the Professional Directory of the National Center for Crisis Management, the associations' online directory and referral network. The Professional Directory is available online through a searchable database.
Certifications in Traumatic Stress Specialties
Members are afforded the opportunity to achieve certification in 13 different Traumatic Stress Specialties. Applicants must complete the Application for Certifications in Traumatic Stress Specialties and provide the requisite documentation of their knowledge, training, education and experience related to the traumatic stress specialty area for which they are applying.
• CERTIFICATION IN FORENSIC TRAUMATOLOGY (C.F.T)
• CERTIFICATION IN BEREAVEMENT TRAUMA (C.B.T.)
• CERTIFICATION IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (C.D.V.)
• CERTIFICATION IN MOTOR VEHICLE TRAUMA (C.M.V.T.)
• CERTIFICATION IN SEXUAL ABUSE (C.S.A.)
• CERTIFICATION IN DISABILITY TRAUMA (C.D.T.)
• CERTIFICATION IN RAPE TRAUMA (C.R.T.)
• CERTIFICATION IN PAIN MANAGEMENT (C.P.M.)
• CERTIFICATION IN STRESS MANAGEMENT (C.S.M.)
• CERTIFICATION IN ILLNESS TRAUMA (C.I.T.)
• CERTIFIED CRISIS CHAPLAIN (C.C.C.)
• CERTIFICATION IN CHILD TRAUMA (C.C.T)
• CERTIFICATION IN CRISIS INTERVENTION (C.C.I.)

CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD THE APPLICATION FOR
CERTFICATION IN TRAUMATIC STRESS SPECIALTIES
Certifications in Crisis Management Specialties
Members are afforded the opportunity to achieve certification in four different Crisis Management Specialties. Applicants must complete the Application for Certification in Crisis Management Specialties and provide the requisite documentation of their knowledge, training, education ad experience related to the crisis management specialty area for which they are applying.
• CERTIFICATION IN EMERGENCY CRISIS RESPONSE (C.E.C.R.)
• CERTIFICATION IN SCHOOL CRISIS RESPONSE (C.S.C.R.)
• CERTIFICATION IN UNIVERSITY CRISIS RESPONSE (C.U.C.R)
• CERTIFICATION IN CORPORATE CRISIS RESPONSE (C.C.C.R.)

CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD THE APPLICATION FOR
CERTFICATION IN CRISIS MANAGEMENT SPECIALTIES
Use of Specialty Area Credentials
Members who achieve a certification through the Traumatic Stress Specialties or Crisis Management Specialties program may use either of the following credentials and description to denote their achievement depending on which type of specialty certification achieved:
FOR MEMBERS ACHIEVING CERTIFICATION THROUGH THE TRAUMATIC STRESS SPECIALITIES PROGRAM:
Robert J. Miller, Ph.D., C.M.V.T.
Certified in Motor Vehicle Trauma
American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress
in collaboration with the National Center for Crisis Management

FOR MEMBERS ACHIEVING CERTIFICATION THROUGH THE CRISIS MANAGEMENT SPECIALITIES PROGRAM:
Robert J. Miller, Ph.D., C.S.C.R.
Certified in School Crisis Response
National Center for Crisis Management
in collaboration with the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress

Former councilman gets prison for sex with teenager

Former councilman gets prison for sex with teenager

http://daanetwork.blogspot.com/2010/09/former-councilman-gets-prison-for-sex....

SAN ANTONIO (AP) — A former suburban San Antonio city council member has received a 10-year prison term for having sex with a 14-year-old girl.
Jeffrey Ellis pleaded guilty to sexual assault of a child last month under terms of a plea deal with Bexar County prosecutors. The 44-year-old former Helotes councilman blamed alcohol abuse for what he called one-time-only misbehavior.
Ellis resigned his office one week after his May 2009 arrest by federal marshals in Albuquerque, N.M., where he was visiting his parents. Prosecutors say Ellis had sex with the underaged daughter of a family friend at his home in Helotes.
Helotes is located about 14 miles northwest of San Antonio.

Information from: San Antonio Express-News, http://www.mysanantonio.com

Effects of Domestic Violence on Children and Adolescents: An Overview Joseph S. Volpe, Ph.D., B.C.E.T.S. Director, Professional Development



http://www.aaets.org/article8.htm
Effects of Domestic Violence on Children and Adolescents: An Overview
Joseph S. Volpe, Ph.D., B.C.E.T.S.
Director, Professional Development

Nationwide Crisis Line and Hotline Directory
I. What Is Domestic Violence?
In the past two decades, there has been growing recognition of the prevalence of domestic violence in our society. Moreover, it has become apparent that some individuals are at greater risk for victimization than others. Domestic violence has adverse effects on individuals, families, and society in general.
Domestic violence includes physical abuse, sexual abuse, psychological abuse, and abuse to property and pets (Ganley, 1989). Exposure to this form of violence has considerable potential to be perceived as life-threatening by those victimized and can leave them with a sense of vulnerability, helplessness, and in extreme cases, horror. Physical abuse refers to any behavior that involves the intentional use of force against the body of another person that risks physical injury, harm, and/or pain (Dutton, 1992). Physical abuse includes pushing, hitting, slapping, choking, using an object to hit, twisting of a body part, forcing the ingestion of an unwanted substance, and use of a weapon. Sexual abuse is defined as any unwanted sexual intimacy forced on one individual by another. It may include oral, anal, or vaginal stimulation or penetration, forced nudity, forced exposure to sexually explicit material or activity, or any other unwanted sexual activity (Dutton, 1994). Compliance may be obtained through actual or threatened physical force or through some other form of coercion. Psychological abuse may include derogatory statements or threats of further abuse (e.g., threats of being killed by another individual). It may also involve isolation, economic threats, and emotional abuse.
II. Prevalence of Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is widespread and occurs among all socioeconomic groups. In a national survey of over 6,000 American families, it was estimated that between 53% and 70% of male batterers (i.e., they assaulted their wives) also frequently abused their children (Straus & Gelles, 1990). Other research suggests that women who have been hit by their husbands were twice as likely as other women to abuse a child (CWP, 1995).
Over 3 million children are at risk of exposure to parental violence each year (Carlson, 1984). Children from homes where domestic violence occurs are physically or sexually abused and/or seriously neglected at a rate 15 times the national average (McKay, 1994). Approximately, 45% to 70% of battered women in shelters have reported the presence of child abuse in their home (Meichenbaum, 1994). About two-thirds of abused children are being parented by battered women (McKay, 1994). Of the abused children, they are three times more likely to have been abused by their fathers.
Studies of the incidence of physical and sexual violence in the lives of children suggest that this form of violence can be viewed as a serious public health problem. State agencies reported approximately 211,000 confirmed cases of child physical abuse and 128,000 cases of child sexual abuse in 1992. At least 1,200 children died as a result of maltreatment. It has been estimated that about 1 in 5 female children and 1 in 10 male children may experience sexual molestation (Regier & Cowdry, 1995).
III. Domestic Violence as a Cause of Traumatic Stress
As the incidence of interpersonal violence grows in our society, so does the need for investigation of the cognitive, emotional and behavioral consequences produced by exposure to domestic violence, especially in children. Traumatic stress is produced by exposure to events that are so extreme or severe and threatening, that they demand extraordinary coping efforts. Such events are often unpredicted and uncontrollable. They overwhelm a person's sense of safety and security.
Terr (1991) has described "Type I" and "Type II" traumatic events. Traumatic exposure may take the form of single, short-term event (e.g., rape, assault, severe beating) and can be referred to as "Type I" trauma. Traumatic events can also involve repeated or prolonged exposure (e.g., chronic victimization such as child sexual abuse, battering); this is referred to as "Type II" trauma. Research suggests that this latter form of exposure tends to have greater impact on the individual's functioning. Domestic violence is typically ongoing and therefore, may fit the criteria for a Type II traumatic event.
With repeated exposure to traumatic events, a proportion of individuals may develop Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). PTSD involves specific patterns of avoidance and hyperarousal. Individuals with PTSD may begin to organize their lives around their trauma. Although most people who suffer from PTSD (especially, in severe cases) have considerable interpersonal and academic/occupational problems, the degree to which symptoms of PTSD interfere with overall functioning varies a great deal from person to person.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders - Fourth Edition (DSM-IV; APA, 1994) stipulates that in order for an individual to be diagnosed with posttraumatic stress disorder, he or she must have experienced or witnessed a life-threatening event and reacted with intense fear, helplessness, or horror. The traumatic event is persistently reexperienced (e.g., distressing recollections), there is persistent avoidance of stimuli associated with the trauma, and the victim experiences some form of hyperarousal (e.g., exaggerated startle response). These symptoms persist for more than one month and cause clinically significant impairment in daily functioning. When the disturbance lasts a minimum of two days and as long as four weeks from the traumatic event, Acute Stress Disorder may be a more accurate diagnosis.
It has been suggested that responses to traumatic experience(s) can be divided into at least four categories (for a complete review, see Meichenbaum, 1994). Emotional responses include shock, terror, guilt, horror, irritability, anxiety, hostility, and depression. Cognitive responses are reflected in significant concentration impairment, confusion, self-blame, intrusive thoughts about the traumatic experience(s) (also referred to as flashbacks), lowered self-efficacy, fears of losing control, and fear of reoccurrence of the trauma. Biologically-based responses involve sleep disturbance (i.e., insomnia), nightmares, an exaggerated startle response, and psychosomatic symptoms. Behavioral responses include avoidance, social withdrawal, interpersonal stress (decreased intimacy and lowered trust in others), and substance abuse. The process through which the individual has coped prior to the trauma is arrested; consequently, a sense of helplessness is often maintained (Foy, 1992).
IV. Possible Signs and Symptoms of Domestic Violence in Children and Adolescents
More than half of the school-age children in domestic violence shelters show clinical levels of anxiety or posttraumatic stress disorder (Graham-Bermann, 1994). Without treatment, these children are at significant risk for delinquency, substance abuse, school drop-out, and difficulties in their own relationships.
Children may exhibit a wide range of reactions to exposure to violence in their home. Younger children (e.g., preschool and kindergarten) oftentimes, do not understand the meaning of the abuse they observe and tend to believe that they "must have done something wrong." Self-blame can precipitate feelings of guilt, worry, and anxiety. It is important to consider that children, especially younger children, typically do not have the ability to adequately express their feelings verbally. Consequently, the manifestation of these emotions are often behavioral. Children may become withdrawn, non-verbal, and exhibit regressed behaviors such as clinging and whining. Eating and sleeping difficulty, concentration problems, generalized anxiety, and physical complaints (e.g., headaches) are all common.
Unlike younger children, the pre-adolescent child typically has greater ability to externalize negative emotions (i.e., to verbalize). In addition to symptoms commonly seen with childhood anxiety (e.g., sleep problems, eating disturbance, nightmares), victims within this age group may show a loss of interest in social activities, low self-concept, withdrawal or avoidance of peer relations, rebelliousness and oppositional-defiant behavior in the school setting. It is also common to observe temper tantrums, irritability, frequent fighting at school or between siblings, lashing out at objects, treating pets cruelly or abusively, threatening of peers or siblings with violence (e.g., "give me a pen or I will smack you"), and attempts to gain attention through hitting, kicking, or choking peers and/or family members. Incidentally, girls are more likely to exhibit withdrawal and unfortunately, run the risk of being "missed" as a child in need of support.
Adolescents are at risk of academic failure, school drop-out, delinquency, and substance abuse. Some investigators have suggested that a history of family violence or abuse is the most significant difference between delinquent and non delinquent youth. An estimated 1/5 to 1/3 of all teenagers who are involved in dating relationships are regularly abusing or being abused by their partners verbally, mentally, emotionally, sexually, and/or physically (SASS, 1996). Between 30% and 50% of dating relationships can exhibit the same cycle of escalating violence as marital relationships (SASS, 1996).
V. Helping Children and Adolescents Exposed to Domestic Violence
For some children and adolescents, questions about home life may be difficult to answer, especially if the individual has been "warned" or threatened by a family member to refrain from "talking to strangers" about events that have taken place in the family. Referrals to the appropriate school personnel could be the first step in assisting the child or teen in need of support. When there is suggestion of domestic violence with a student, consider involving the school psychologist, social worker, guidance counselor and/or a school administrator (when indicated). Although the circumstances surrounding each case may vary, suspicion of child abuse is required to be reported to the local child protection agency by teachers and other school personnel. In some cases, a contact with the local police department may also be necessary. When in doubt, consult with school team members.
If the child expresses a desire to talk, provide them with an opportunity to express their thoughts and feelings. In addition to talking, they may be also encouraged to write in a journal, draw, or paint; these are all viable means for facilitating expression in younger children. Adolescents are typically more abstract in their thinking and generally have better developed verbal abilities than younger children. It could be helpful for adults who work with teenagers to encourage them to talk about their concerns without insisting on this expression. Listening in a warm, non-judgmental, and genuine manner is often comforting for victims and may be an important first step in their seeking further support. When appropriate, individual and/or group counseling should be considered at school if the individual is amenable. Referrals for counseling (e.g., family counseling) outside of the school should be made to the family as well. Providing a list of names and phone numbers to contact in case of a serious crisis can be helpful.
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Dutton, M.A. (1992). Women's response to battering: Assessment and intervention. New York: Springer.
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Enraged man kills estranged wife, 4 stepchildren

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/39377802/ns/us_news/

By KELLI KENNEDY, MATT SEDENSKY
updated 9/27/2010 6:39:17 PM ET
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A man who terrorized his estranged wife for months, threatening her with a knife and telling her she would end up in the morgue, killed the woman and four of his stepchildren during a middle-of-the-night rampage, police said Monday.
Patrick Dell, 41, and his wife, 36-year-old Natasha Whyte-Dell, had been going through a bitter divorce, and it appears he targeted her and his stepchildren, police said. However, Dell spared his biological 1- and 3-year-old children. A fifth stepchild, 15-year-old Ryan Barnett, also was shot in the house but was expected to survive.
Friends and neighbors said Whyte-Dell time after time took the man back — even though he had installed cameras to keep an eye on her and stalked her when she went to work and nursing school. She filed a restraining order against him in May after learning he was trying to get a gun.
The horror that unfolded around 2 a.m. Monday was the culmination of a lengthy dispute that came to a head Dec. 20, when Whyte-Dell said her husband came after her with a knife, slashed her tires and scratched an "X" into the concrete driveway.
He made a particularly chilling threat: "You will be going to the morgue," he told her, according to a police report. "Your family is going to cry today."
After that incident — five days before Christmas — Whyte Dell told police she feared for her life. Dell was arrested and charged with aggravated assault with a deadly weapon and criminal mischief. But he was released hours later without bond, said Riviera Beach Police spokeswoman Rose Ann Brown.
The Department of Children and Families investigated after the knife attack, but closed the case in February without removing the children, spokeswoman Elisa Cramer said.

 time after time, friends said Whyte-Dell took her husband back, hoping things would get better.
front of the crime scene crying. "He was extremely jealous, obsessive and possessive.
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Dell seemed paranoid, a neighbor said, always thinking someone was against him. On Sunday, while he was at a club, he was asked to leave after making a drunken threat.
"He was talking about chopping up somebody," said neighbor Keisha Gordon, 30.
Gordon said she left the club with Dell and went to a nearby park, the last place Gordon saw him before the shootings.
A police officer was checking a suspicious vehicle around 2 a.m. when he heard what sounded like muffled gun shots, Riviera Beach Police spokeswoman Rose Anne Brown said. When officers approached the home, Dell went outside and shot himself, she said.
Inside the home, officers found the bodies of the woman and her four children: 10-year-old Daniel Barnett; 11-year-old Javon Nelson; 13-year-old Diane Barnett; and 14-year-old Bryan Barnett.
The small home where the killings happened was a popular hangout for neighborhood kids, who loved using the front-yard basketball hoop and closeness to a trim cemetery across the street that often was used as a park. Just a few doors down sits an immaculate red-brick church.
On Monday, a silver chain-link fence had been tangled with yellow crime-scene tape. A black mailbox was on a post outside with a single balloon in the shape of a red heart tied to it.
Neighbors said gunshots had become an all-too-common sound in the area. Jeanette Walker, a 56-year-old hairstylist who lives nearby, said she thought nothing of the gunfire because she heard no sirens.
"They over there shooting at each other again," she remembered thinking.

Pregnant woman, boyfriend murdered same night

http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/metropolitan/7218827.html

Pregnant woman, boyfriend murdered same night

By PAIGE HEWITT and SARAH RASLAN 
HOUSTON CHRONICLE

Sept. 27, 2010, 7:30PM

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Leiah Jackson was working toward a master's degree.

Officials believe Yancey Daniels, 30, was shot in the torso at about 12:30 a.m., half an hour before his pregnant girlfriend, Leiah Jackson, 27, was attacked and stabbed 22 times with a butcher’s knife at her Missouri City home.

More than nine hours later a woman spotted Daniels’ body while leaving an apartment on the 6300 block of West Airport Boulevard at 9:55 a.m, according to the Houston Police Department.

He had suffered multiple gunshot wounds and was lying on the sidewalk, underneath a bush, police said.

Jackson, an elementary school nurse's aide, was attacked around 1 a.m. at her Missouri City fourplex in the 3300 block of Palm Desert Lane, family members said.

She was stabbed more than 20 times with a butcher's knife. Her unborn boy due to be born in a few weeks was also killed.

“Houston police are holding our person of interest,“ said Capt. John Bailey of the Missouri City Police Department.

Bailey said he could not disclose the man's name because he has not been arrested in the case. The also would not say why police consider the man a “person of interest“ or if the man knew Jackson or Daniels.

However, he acknowledged that the woman knew her attacker.

The investigation into both incidents is ongoing. Anyone with any information is urged to contact the HPD Homicide Division at 713-308-3600 or Crime Stoppers at 713-222-TIPS.

 Jackson's cousin was stunned at the woman's death.

“For a young lady, a pregnant young lady, to be killed like this is tough,“ said her cousin Tommy Jackson. “This is so tough. She was happy-go-lucky.“

After being brutally attacked, Jackson walked out of her garage, along the driveway and to the front door of the nearby unit where her mother lives, leaving pools of blood along the way, relatives said.

She banged on the front door; her mother initially thought something was wrong with the baby — until she saw the stab wounds, Tommy Jackson said.

Leiah Jackson then told her mother that the attacker was a relative of the unborn boy's father, family members said. Police would not comment on the suspect's identity.

Jackson was airlifted to a hospital, where she and the unborn baby died, Missouri City police Sgt. Brandon Harris said.

Tommy Jackson said Sunday evening that Leiah Jackon's family members had not heard from the unborn child's father and had not met his relatives.

The pregnant woman, whom relatives described as a giving person, was working toward a master's degree in counseling.

Longtime friend Jonathan Wykoff recalled Jackson as a young woman with a good heart who happened also to be beautiful.

“She was like a beacon of light,“ he said. “She was like a sister to me. She had been talking about her baby showers and everything. This was unnecessary. I'm still in shock.“

Peter Ntege, who worked with Jackson at Jones Elementary in Fort Bend ISD, said she was happy and eager to become a mother.

“She was a fantastic person, always happy and always had a smile on her face,“ he said. “She was super excited about the baby.“

paige.hewitt@chron.com 
sarah.raslan@chron.com

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After more than a decade of facilitating evidence-based prevention workshops, Break the Cycle is proud to introduce [Ending Violence] - an innovative dating violence prevention curriculum that puts Break the Cycle’s expertise and experience directly into your hands.Buy now!

Safely and smartly connecting with teens, [Ending Violence] helps you teach youth how to:

  • Prevent and safely end abusive relationships
  • Understand their legal rights and responsibilities
  • Create a framework for building healthy relationships in the future

[Ending Violence]’s content can be easily presented using the interactive DVD format – incorporating video segments, interactive classroom activities, discussion prompts, animation, role play activities and extended research projects. The [Ending Violence] package also includes:

  • A comprehensive Educator's Guide
  • A self-guided resource for students
  • A video presentation for adults who want to learn about teen dating abuse
  • Classroom materials that help raise awareness about domestic and dating abuse
  • Exclusive access to handouts, activities, and support via the [Ending Violence] microsite
  • A Spanish-language version of the entire curriculum and accompanying materials

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