How to Identify an Abusive Relationship
Overview
Identifying an abusive relationship can be difficult for a variety of reasons. You may feel ashamed and don't want to recognize the signs. Your significant other may promise to change, so that you hope it will end. Or you may just have low self-confidence and believe you deserve to be treated badly. You need to understand that these feelings are all part of the abusive situation. Recognizing the signs of an abusive relationship can help you get the confidence to do something about it and stop it.
Step 1
Recognize signs that your partner is trying to control you. He may take over the financial accounts in your home and deny you access to them. He may tell you what you can and can't do, says TheSafeSpace.org. He may stop you from doing some of the things that you love. Exerting power and control over you, even if it isn't physical, is still a sign of abuse.
Step 2
Note when your partner puts you down or calls you names. Perhaps she tells you that you aren't good enough, or tells you that you could never find someone to love you. These tactics are meant to abuse you emotionally, so you remain dependent on her. But name calling and put downs are just as abusive as a slap to the face, and shouldn't be tolerated.
Step 4
Detect threats, even if they never come to fruition. Making you fear something, whether it be physical pain, social backlash or a withdrawal of communication, is abuse. She may threaten to leave you constantly, or tell your parents that you've been unfaithful. She may also threaten to hurt you physically, notes the Sexual Assault and Relationship Abuse Prevention and Support at Standford University.
Step 5
Know that once a partner lays his hands on you in a physically aggressive way, it constitutes physical abuse. He may shove you or push you, but not hurt you hard enough to leave a mark or hit you. He may force you to have sex against your will, citing that you are in a relationship and "have" to engage in sexual activities. These are very serious forms of abuse, and you should seek help immediately before it escalates any further.
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